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Is a grown-up home?

Ask, in advance and in your own words, whether a parent will be in before you go to somebody's house.

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Step 1 of 9

1Watch

Sat, mine, 7

Film

Sat, mine, 7

A group chat on a phone. The invitation arrives, four people reply yes in a row, and the film ends on her thumb over the keyboard.

18 seconds

Everybody else has already said yes. Watch what she has not asked.

2The idea

The question nobody in the chat has asked

The plan is probably fine. Most plans are. The question is not whether you can go. It is who else is going to be in the house when you get there, and nobody in that chat knows. Four people said yes to a house without asking who is in it.

You ask, in advance, in your own words. Not your parent, not at the door, and not by assuming. A parent ringing another parent is fine too, but the skill is yours, because you are the one who will be standing in that house.

3The idea

How it goes, in three steps

1. Ask it in the chat, before anything is agreed. Is your mum or dad going to be in?
2. Read the reply for one thing: does it put a named grown-up inside the house?
3. If it does not, ask again, once. If it still does not, that is your answer.

A grown-up home means a parent, a grandparent, an aunt, somebody’s adult in the building, even asleep, even working upstairs with the door shut. A seventeen-year-old brother is not a grown-up home. A neighbour with a key is not either. Out but back by nine is not home.

4Say it

The question, so it sounds like nothing

Say this in your normal voice, the way you would ask what time

“Is your mum or dad going to be in?”

It is one line in a chat. Nobody has ever been uninvited for asking it.

5The idea

Watch it work once

Maya gets the invite. She types: is your mum or dad going to be in? Reply: yeah it’s fine, come. That is friendly and it is not an answer. Nobody is in it. So she asks once more: cool, but is your mum in? Reply: yeah she’s working upstairs.

Now she has a name and a place. The reply that answers the question is the one with a person in it. If the second reply had been another it’s fine, that would have been an answer too, and the answer would have been: nobody is going to be home.

6Decide

You ask. Which of these replies actually answers the question?

That one. It names a person and puts her in the house. Notice the other two sound just as friendly and tell you nothing. “My mum said yes” means she said yes to you coming. It does not say where she will be.
Read it again. That reply is about whether you are welcome, and you never asked that. You asked who will be home. If the answer does not put a grown-up inside the house, you have not got an answer yet, so ask again.

Pick one to carry on.

7Build it

Three invitations

Interactive

Three invitations

Three chat screens. For each invitation you type the question, read the reply that comes back, and decide whether you have an answer or need to ask again. The third one never gives you a straight answer.

The third one is the one to notice. A reply that dodges the question twice is an answer.

8Find them

Which of these count as a grown-up being home?

Tap the ones that count.

Find all 3.

9Do it

Before you leave this page

The next time you are invited anywhere this week, ask who is going to be home. In the chat, in your words, before you ask your parent. Then show your parent the reply.

Tick it when you have done it.

Lesson done.

Ask who is home before you go. You ask, not your parent, and not at the door.

Next lesson: Rooms with doors that close