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The ask, however it's dressed up
Recognise a request for a private picture whatever it is disguised as, and have one reply ready.
1Watch
Six openings
Six openings
Six short chat clips, one after another. A dare. A trade for skins. 'If you liked me you would.' A hack scare. 'Everyone does it.' A blurred picture arriving first with 'your turn' under it. Each cuts before anyone replies.
28 secondsThey look different. They are all the same message.
2The idea
Name it plainly
Somebody asks you for a picture you would not want anyone else to see: a nude, or close to it. It happens to a lot of people your age, boys as much as girls, and it almost never starts as a plain ask. It starts as a dare, a trade, a relationship, a scare, or a picture of their own.
The dressing changes. The request underneath does not, and neither does the answer. If you have already sent one, the next three lessons are for you, and nothing in them is a telling-off. This one is about seeing the ask coming.
3The idea
The six dressings
The dare. ‘Bet you wouldn’t.’ ‘Prove you’re not a kid.’
The trade. Skins, coins, a gift card, money. ‘I’ll send you something first.’
The relationship. ‘If you actually liked me.’ ‘Everyone in a relationship does.’
The scare. ‘Your account’s been hacked, send a pic to verify it’s you.’
The crowd. ‘Everyone in the group has done it.’
The picture first. One arrives. ‘Your turn.’
Under all six is the same sentence: send me a picture of you. A dare is a request with a bet on it. A trade is a request with a price on it. Going first is a request with a debt on it that you never agreed to. Take the dressing off and it is the same ask.
4The idea
Watch it work once, and the reply
Jamie has chatted with someone for three weeks. Funny, easy, into the same game. Then a picture arrives, and under it: ‘your turn’. It feels like fairness. It feels like a test of whether Jamie is cool. Jamie takes the dressing off: this is the ask. It was always going to be the ask.
The reply is one line and then nothing: No. And I’m done here. Then leave the chat. No arguing, because there is nothing to argue about, and every reply is a door left open. Jamie owes nobody a picture. The one that arrived may not even be of the person who sent it.
5Your turn
Six openings, one thing underneath
Strip it back
Each of the six openings, one at a time. Drag away the dressing (the dare, the trade, the compliment) and see the same plain request left underneath every one. The card lines all six up at the end.
Once you have seen it six times, it is hard to unsee.
6Decide
Someone you have chatted with for three weeks sends a picture of themselves first and says 'your turn'. What is this?
Pick one to carry on.
7Say it
The one reply
Say it once, flat
“No. And I'm done here.”
Then you leave the chat. You do not argue about it, because there is nothing to argue about.
8Find them
Which of these are the ask, in disguise?
Tap the ones that count.
Find all 5.
9Look
The card
Six openings, one line
A single card. Six short chat bubbles in a column: the dare, the trade, the relationship, the scare, the crowd, the picture first. Under all six, one line in plain type: send me a picture of you. Under that, the reply: No. And I'm done here.
This card is the whole lesson. If you remember one picture from this badge, make it this one.
10Do it
Before you leave this page
Say out loud, once, exactly what you would reply. Not what you think you should say; what you would actually type. Then close the page.
Tick it when you have done it.
Lesson done.
Six ways of asking. One thing underneath. One reply.
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